Open letter to the parents of Michael Brown

I don’t even know where to being.

I can’t pretend to fully understand your loss and pain. Being a forty-two year old white male in America, I haven’t experienced the harsh realities of society in the ways you have endured. That, in itself, would be a heavy burden to bear. The loss of a son makes it even more overwhelming.

I am a father of two girls, and can’t imagine losing one of them to such a tragedy. We, as parents, are saddled with great responsibility the moment they enter this world. We protect. We nurture. We discipline. We love. We envision grand dreams for our children, unsure if they will ever obtain them. We never anticipate outliving them. It’s an old cliche, but it’s so very true. A parent should never have to bury their own child.

As I watched the events unfold Monday night, my heart broke. I am a Christian. The Bible says in Romans 12:15 that we are to rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. I stared at all those hurt, angry, and distraught faces in Ferguson, and I cried. I prayed for healing and reconciliation. I prayed for everyone directly involved with the case. I prayed for the safety of every citizen on those streets.

And I prayed for you.

Your son was a human being. We were all created in the image of God. Each one of us has value and purpose, regardless of how the world looks at us. I honestly don’t fully know what God’s intentions were for creating different races. I believe it’s something to celebrate, not discriminate against. What a boring world this would be if we were all entirely the same. I have many friends from multiple cultures, and it’s amazing to learn about all the differences.

As difficult as it is to accept, I know racism is alive and well today. It’s extremely sad, but impossible to ignore. People are labeled with stereotypes by the way they act, talk, and live. Nothing will ever change until we can view each and every individual through the same lens as our Heavenly Father. We have to see beyond the visible, and recognize each person’s potential and destiny.

God loves you. He loved Michael. Before your son was even conceived, God already had the template set aside. With tenderness and grace, He formed him inside the womb. He gave him life. It doesn’t matter how Michael chose to live on this Earth. That never changed the intimate, unconditional love he received from his Creator. Nothing could ever change that.

After reading the comments and posts that have saturated social media this week, my heart is heavy. I can’t imagine the emotions and feelings you are experiencing in the midst of this chaos. It seems as if everyone wants to voice their opinions and spew hate, rather than take a moment to focus on those who are hurting the most. I know you feel the weight of injustice pressing down on your like an unbearable burden. For that, I am truly sorry.

I’m not taking sides. My heart hurts for all parties involved in this situation. No one walks away from something like this without experiencing loss. The bottom line is that you lost a son, and nothing that is done, written, or said will ever bring him back. The grief you will continue to endure is unspeakable.

I pray for God’s comfort to embrace you as the days pass. The only thing that will make a difference in this world is love. It has to start with the person standing right in front of us.



42 thoughts on “Open letter to the parents of Michael Brown

  1. Very well put, my thoughts are near the same. Thought about writing something similar, think it would have ended up with five pages or more. You expressed what many felt, including me. Thank You, for following and I always scope peoples work when I have time. God Bless

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  2. As a Christian also, it is disheartening to witness the extent of hate surrounding this issue.
    This situation needs to be covered in prayer for all those involved, directly and indirectly. This family needs to heal and deserves comfort no less than any other.

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  3. This was a beautiful letter through and through. I felt your emotions as I read it. I too feel the same way regarding all of these events. I believe as you believe that “races” should not be a factor for the future. We are all human and in reality the human race is just one. We have different ethnicities, but there is only one human race on this planet. If people learn to love and move past self-imposed classifications such as “race” and instead treat and think of everyone as people, things would change. Your letter was very sincere and touched on many valid points that I personally think about and believe in. People need to stop judging others since no one person is perfect. You have a good reasonable head on your shoulders.

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  4. I think the verdict was justice. It is sad someone died but the facts are it was not like the media made it out to be. The question is what can we do to keep things like this from happening again.


    1. Exactly TruthWillwin1….Michael Brown was living a life of sin. He had attacked a store owner and stole from the store right before the incident. He had drugs in his system. He then boldly attacked the police officer and the officer fired back in self-defense. The transcript of the jury trial shares all the facts. Michael chose a life of sin and like scripture warns us, with sin there is death – following this incident, the media has perpetrated a series of propaganda, lies, and bias which has resulted in criminal behavior by looters who destroyed businesses and terrorized innocent people. The whole situation is surrounded with pure darkness and now as a result we have two dead innocent police officers who can no longer “breathe” with families mourning their terrible loss. Some people in this country are moving forth with an “eye for an eye” malicious spirit instead of a spirit of love and forgiveness. Although the loss of any life is tragic, we as believers know we all face consequences for the choices we make. My prayer is that the truth prevails and that our fellow Americas get on their knees with repentance so we can be a nation of healing.

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  5. Thank-you for saying what a lot of other people wanted to say, and didn’t know how. I can’t even imagine what those parents are going through. It’s almost incomprehensible to lose a child, but then to hear otherwise rational people say he deserved it, I can’t help but remember a carpenter in Galilee using His finger to write something in the sand while He invited the person who had no sin of his own to cast the first stone.

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  6. Thank you Chris! I hope some how, his parents are able to read you letter. My heart was very heavy and after hearing the verdict. I don’t know why I’m always surprised by injustice, but somehow, it seems to punch me and I guess a lot of people right in the gut each time. Because we expect it to be different. That the last guy who died, and we marched, rallied and prayed… that it somehow made a difference. That there wouldn’t have to be a next time.

    So much has to change in our world. I hope it does before your kids and mine become adults. We just have to keep praying. We need God to heal our land.

    Angela Alexander


  7. Chris, You have heart and soul, the bitterness, hatred and frustration being experienced across America comes from the total lack of empathy, and inability to put feelings aside to see the damage we are causing, or how we might add to the problem by fanning flames. Enough has burned, and nothing was solved by the burning. many businesses will never reopen, and the very looters will have less for a community to live in. I weep for them in that they only increased their suffering and that of others! Harlem and Watts are still only shells! You have a hard job being a voice of reason!

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  8. Vashti, while I disagree with you about the no excuse part it is a tragedy and we should all take time to reflect on this and look at ways to make us better. I have had an altercation where I was nearly beaten to death for being at the wrong place at the wrong time (I was hospitalized), the person was even able to pick me up and throw me. To be fair if I had a gun the situation might have ended differently. Things change when you feel you might be killed. This minor was a large physical presence and he clearly was not innocent as well. We can argue about justice for ages but you are wrong when you think everyone feels the same about this.
    Once again with that said it is a shame that this happened and I wish his family the best in these tragic times.

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  9. I understand, Chris, that you are not taking sides because we may not know the situations. You are right that you feel hurt for all the involved parties. Yea, may God’s love and comfort be upon the parents’ loss.

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  10. Hello Chris, as I’m writing this comment I can’t stop crying. I still can’t wrap my head around what happened but the one thing that I sincerely believe is that there’s no excuse to shoot and kill an unarmed minor, no matter what he said or what his attitude may have been like. There’s no excuse. What happened was a great injustice. I think everyone knows that even those who refuse to admit it.

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    1. His attitude wasn’t what got him shot. Physically assaulting a police officer got him shot.

      Want to talk about injustice? How about the folks whose businesses have been burnt to the ground by a mob of crazed rioters?

      What about all of the gang violence in our cities? If there was half as much outrage every time someone got killed in a gang shooting as there is in Ferguson, things would definitely be different.

      The only “justice” these people want is the head of Officer Wilson on a pike. Nothing less would have been satisfactory.

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      1. Alan,
        Even if what you suggest (head on pike) happened, they still would not be happy. There was really no way to avoid what is going on here in STL.


  11. Thanks, Wally. I appreciate that. It’s been heavy on my heart all morning, and I wasn’t even going to post it at first. Then I figured maybe it could help someone. I don’t know. God bless.


  12. Chris,

    That may well have been the most reasoned, compassionate and well thought out writing I have heard on this entire episode. I was thinking those thoughts, but don’t really have the verbal skill to articulate them..thank you so much.

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